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Distance feels like clarity. We step back from a relationship, and for the first time in a while, we can breathe. The tension drops, our thinking sharpens, and it’s easy to tell ourselves we’ve grown—that we’ve moved on, matured, gotten healthy. But distance is not the same thing as freedom. It’s still attachment. It’s just attachment with space around it. If we have to stay away in order to stay calm, the calm isn’t coming from us—it’s coming from the distance. Emotional cut

"There is no better way to remove a "block" in life, work on a stubborn personality characteristic or irrational belief, or in general to become a little more objective, than to take a specific question back to one’s generations, to see what can be learned from them." - Roberta M. Gilbert, M.D. Last month in our Resilient Pastor Cohort, we dug into the generational roots of some of our leadership challenges. Families are multigenerational systems that have been adapting and a

Studies and surveys continue to highlight pastoral burnout as a problem. Often, pastors suffer in silence, wait too long before seeking help, burnout, or leave ministry altogether. Here are five burnout factors that often go overlooked.

If you’re a pastor, work hard—but rest harder. The church needs your sharpness more than your stamina. And the byproduct of regular rest is it will actually improve your stamina for when you and your church truly need it most.

Every pastor I know walks a tightrope: say too much and the system (the emotional life of the church) floods, say too little and the...